Abuse

There are many different types of abuse.  There is physical abuse, emotional abuse, and verbal abuse.  All of these types of abuse are serious.  I hate seeing people go through any of these types of abuses.  The really sad part of it is that most people that are being abused either do not think of it as abuse or they are too scared to leave.  I have seen people that have been physically abused and have obvious marks from it and they find an excuse or they say that it was their fault that they got beat.  I think mental and verbal abuse happen a lot more often than most people realize.  I hate seeming a man or woman belittle their significant other in public or even at all!!!  I have a person close to me that is separating himself from a relationship that there was a little of all these abuses.  The most obvious was the physical.  Not only was he on the giving end but also on the receiving end of the abuse.  Ranging from a 2X4 to fists.  This has gotten him in some legal trouble and he now has to live with that.  There are many resources for people that are victims of abuse of any kind.  However, many people do not utilize these resources.  I worry about people that are in a dating relationship with abuse and then proceed on to marriage.  It is then even harder to remove yourself for that type of relationship.  Divorce is hard on its own and even worse if you are afraid of your spouse.

I had a coworker that was abused by her ex-husband in unbelievable ways.  I only know of some of the situations but just knowing those makes my heart break.  The last straw for her was when he beat her so bad that she was put in the hospital.  She now has a lot of trouble with her knees and has to walk with a cane.  That man ruined her physical abilities!!!  Thank goodness, she utilized the resource of the Lafeyette House.  She was eventually able to get her own place and her own car.  She still worried about her safety, which was tough to see.  She does not have to worry anymore about her safety because a few months after she left him, he passed away of natural causes.  It is sad for anyone to lose their life, but I am glad that she no longer has to worry about him hurting her.  I am glad to say that she finally starting dating and found a wonderful man that treats her like the princess she is!!!  She was very lucky to survive the entire trauma that she received. 

I know that when you are "in love" with someone it is hard to see if there is abuse happening, but i wish people would step back and evaluate their situation especially when their loved ones have voiced concerns.